(fellowship with others is a separate topic)
VERBAL INTIMACY
Husbands / wives
We hear many words and phrases today and we need to 'search' them out... 'emotional adultery','psychologically absent', 'divorced emotionally', married singles/ live-in love, alternate life style, etc. etc.
In our 9 page teaching about the Love Covering of the Lord for His people, His canopy, His cloud over us, around us, protecting, guiding, and leading us, we have looked into the blessings when we submit to our 'legitimate authority' that God has placed in our lives. Romans 13 tells us that we must be subject to the higher powers because all authority comes from God. We have learned that 'submission and rebellion' are attitudes of the heart, that love never demands submission, resistance to authority leads to rebellion and anarchy---and that the presence of rules leads to order. We can see how yielded we are as Christians to the will of the Lord, by how we yield to secular or religious authority.
Our special teaching on 'husbands and wives' is strict, Biblical, right-on, but so is 'decalogue'. We strongly reject the 'blurring on the sexes', the Jezebel spirit in the world today, role reversal, cross benefit analysis, being a 'kvetch' and anything that causes us to compromise for less...
This covenant relationship that reaches the highest level of communication, keeps us from being 'phased out' in our marriages, we will call verbal intimacy. The power of agreement, understanding, oneness comes into our lives as God allows situations to arise and shows both people in a marriage how to deal with everything God's way. Unanimity is the way to go. Godly compromises are great, trust is the word for life. As spouses, we share hopes, thoughts, rhetoric, feelings, dreams, concerns, dreads, regrets with one another. We learn, by trial and error, how to have real 'heart to heart' encounters. Sharing the real you-me... takes supernatural power, love , acceptance and endurance---forever--- In past teaching lessons, we have talked about helping your husband to minister to you in a spiritual and emotional way... It takes time- work and effort but God tells us there is a 'better way' and we learn of the 'best' way, the way of love. I Corinthians 13.
No 3rd party should stand in that place. It only comes through a firm effort of 'digging' through the wall. Tears, rejection, emptiness, not giving up... it is worth it all. (we will stop and discuss and have explanation time now.) After you dig through that wall God will show you what you must do.
To understand the 'mystery' and the mystical union that God talks about, the qualities of Jesus Christ in a marriage, you must work at it, pursue it, desire it and claim it. God not only allows it, He commands it... Look around, it's rare to see that 'oneness' that God tells us about, because of the cost, the indifference and passivity... People are willing to settle for less and are unwilling to believe that it can happen to them.
Truly, the husband has God's power over his wife, in a Godly way... the wife has power over her own husband to help create a man of God... a cooperative effort between God and them... (Scriptures on p. 2 'head of household') re: prophet-priest-king... (there are boxes and boxes of DDs studies so I am keeping these typed references to other studies, in hopes that one day, I will have them all and these can be referred to...)
In every union there is a certain invisible bond that God does not want broken... God calls this a 'mystery' as in Christ's love for His church... Then the world will see that Jesus Christ gave Himself for us.. Ephesians 5. As we share our deep human feelings, needs, love, fears, hopes, joys, disappointments, beliefs, pray together etc. we risk vulnerability as each exposes their true selves to one another... Proverbs 31:10, 'the heart of her husband safely trusts in her'.. Does your husband know that his feelings, emotions, opinions... all that matter to him are absolutely safe with you?? Remember, we studied about uncovering, sharing the real person- you with another... determine to follow the better way and the best way... The 3-fold cord, Ecclesiastes 4:12, husband / wife, God, cannot be broken. Give your husband freedom to operate in his office as head / lord I Peter ch. 3 and you will soon beging to recognize the qualities of Jesus Christ in him. As you fit into the plans of your husband, I Peter 3:1,2 (Living Bible_ you will easily fit into the plans of the Lord, Matthew 11:28,29, and others more easily.
Do allow for differences-for diversity- godly compromises. Let your husband and yourself feel pain, anger, joy, etc. Allow it and learn to give it all to Jesus. Talk about it - hear one another. Then experience release. Jesus cares and knows. You are His personal concern. I Peter 5:7. and remember that the Lord wants all of this good stuff worked in your marriage, because it is His original Plan for you. So, it is approved by God, desired by man and woman in marriage and God will make it happen. Start now, pray, listen, communicate, wait, pay attention to timing, visual signals, place and comfort and above all honor God, honor your mate, and believe that God has the power to make it happen Now.. Give all the glory to the Lord...
God will show you how....
He's a good forgiver and will help you to undo, unlearn behaviour patterns, and relearn new ones His way.
Tell God what you really want.,,
Count the cost before you build that tower... Luke 14
Do not be overcome with evil... do overcome evil with good... Romans 12
Help carry the heavy loads... go that 2nd mile
The only thing that counts is faith active in love Galatians 5:6
And, sprinkle a lot of hope around too... Romans 15
Never go to bed angry... improper anger can turn to a root of bitterness. Hebrews 12, Ephesians 4:26
Be excessive in your love to one another...
Woman - be the glory of your man... I Corinthians 11:7
Man - be that teaching priest as head of your household, II Chronicles 15:3
Submission: that loving response to a man who loves me like Christ loves the Church.....
What do you want??? Will you settle for less??
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